How to Get Me Time

The world of a parent is a busy place. It's part of the job description to put our needs on the back burner. When you are working, attending classes at Saint Leo University, and parenting it doesn't leave much time for anything else. We constantly have new obligations and emergencies that pop up and alter our plans. It's practically impossible to find quiet time and with our current economic climate it's typically difficult to find the funds to hire a care taker to give you the night off. Though if may feel impossible to make the time, it is very important that parents have personal time at least once a month. Having personal time allows a parent to recharge their battery and get some much needed refreshing. Here are a few ideas for creating personal time for you and your significant other.

Suggestion 1: The Trade-Off.
One option for creating personal time is to take turns watching the children without your spouse or significant other. Most couples are uncomfortable leaving their spouse at home. The truth is that this is one of the easiest ways to get out and have a break. Taking turns going out for the evening does not require a sitter and gives you the piece of mind that your children are properly cared for. Sometimes getting some space from your spouse is positive as well. By getting free time without your partner, you are able to explore your individuality. It may feel a bit strange the first time, but the break will be worth it.

Suggestion 2: Girls Night.
Having a break does not necessarily mean you have to leave your house. Sometimes it's just as rewarding to have a night in with friends. After your children are in bed, invite some friends over and veg-out. Having an adult pajama party is a great way to relax and have a bit of fun. This also gives your partner a chance to go out without sacrificing your entire evening. Break out the fashion magazines, a chick flick, and a bottle of wine and be prepared for some girl time. Sometimes all you really need are your friends and adult conversation to feel back to normal.

Suggestion 3: Home Spa.
Going to a spa and relaxing doesn't necessarily mean you need to leave your home. One of my favorite ways to unwind is a home spa day. We all love to pamper ourselves, but going to a spa is expensive and requires a great deal of time. Why not turn your bathroom in to an oasis of calming energy. There are many spa treatment you can purchase at any department or drug store. Try giving your self a facial and listen to some tunes in the bubble bath. It will do wonders for your stress level and your skin.

Suggestion 4: Group Sleep Overs.
Having a night out with the girls is great, but now and then you are going to want to spend quality time with your partner. "Group Sleep Overs" are a great way to find time for a little romance without breaking the bank. Once you have a group of friends that you feel comfortable watching your children, you can have group sleep overs for your children. One night per weekend (or whatever fits everyone's schedules) one mother will host a sleepover in their home for all the children in the group. This will allow the other parents to have a night free of children. Next weekend another mother will watch the children and continue the cycle until all friends have hosted. The children will have a blast and all parent's get a night out.

Suggestion 5: Grandma and Grandpa were parents once too.
For most parents it's hard to ask for help. Grandparents are a great option when you need a break. If you're lucky enough to live close to your parents utilize this opportunity. The fact is, they were parents once too and they know what it's like to need a break.

Suggestion 6: Get Out Doors.
It's not always possible to get alone time. Getting outside and exercising is a great way to get the recharge you need while still caring for your children. My favorite way to freshen up with my children is to take a walk with my iPod. I pile my children in the stroller, put in my ear buds, and just start walking. The exercise releases endorphins, which make you feel more at peace and up beat. Not to mention, it won't hurt your waste line to burn a few calories.

Being a parent is never going to be easy, but with a little R and R it can be a bit easier to handle. One important thing to keep in mind is that a happy and relaxed parent creates happy and relaxed children. By giving yourself a chance to recharge you are creating a more zen atmosphere in your home. Don't forget to take care of yourself. You and your family deserve the best you that you can be.